‘My husband wants to sell our house, buy an RV and go travel the world’Tell Me About It: ‘I can’t imagine anything more horrifying than giving up my home to spend it in a tight space’Wed Oct 30 2024 - 06:01
‘The whole adult world is sold as a bright, shiny thing but it’s actually a sad and lonely place’Tell Me About It: Am I the common denominator and are people staying away from me? I’d hardly blame themWed Oct 23 2024 - 06:01
‘I love my husband of 40 years but he has been emotionally and verbally abusive. How can I overcome my fear of leaving?’Tell Me About It: ‘I know so many single women and I don’t envy them’Wed Oct 16 2024 - 06:01
‘I want to ask someone out at work, and I am terrified, with some justification’Tell Me About It: The object of my affection is not Irish so I’m also afraid of the cultural implications of asking him outWed Oct 09 2024 - 06:01
‘The worst picture is of me, drunk at a party, kissing someone with my skirt up way too high’Tell Me About It: ‘I am mortified and so very angry. I know this is wrong and that the law is now able to take this on, but I’ve been getting very conflicting messages’Wed Oct 02 2024 - 06:01
Our mother is refusing to use incontinence wear. My sister who cares for her is exhaustedTell Me About It: My sister, who is my 91-year-old mum’s main carer, is exhausted from having to get up several times during the nighWed Sept 25 2024 - 06:01
‘I’m trying to build a social life, but how can I when my parents call to see me all the time?’Tell Me About It: I have a great relationship with my parents, but I feel stifled by their constant attention. How can I set boundaries so my life can really blossom, without hurting their feelings?Wed Sept 18 2024 - 06:01
‘My husband’s weight has begun to affect my desire for him’Tell Me About It: ‘What more I can do before I end up a widow, or a carer for a seriously disabled man, before my time?’Wed Sept 11 2024 - 06:01
‘Although my current job has a structured career path and is secure, I find it meaningless’Tell Me About It: Should I experiment with another career move or double down and make the most of what I already have?Wed Sept 04 2024 - 06:01
‘I’m struggling to accept the loss of a deeply meaningful photograph album and move on from it’Tell Me About It: ‘I am an only child and my father died before I could consciously know him’Wed Aug 28 2024 - 06:01
‘My daughter’s friend, who is 15, is in a secret online relationship that is causing her to be fearful’Tell Me About It: My daughter promised her friend she would not tell anyone about this, but she is struggling with this burden and has had trouble sleepingWed Aug 21 2024 - 06:01
‘I am on the receiving end of aggressive behaviour from some individuals nearing retirement age’Tell Me About It: This behaviour is really tough on all other colleagues and causes huge resentmentWed Aug 14 2024 - 06:01
‘How did I not see that my son was turning out like his father?’Tell Me About It: ‘I love my son but am also afraid of him and for him’Wed Aug 07 2024 - 06:01
‘I chose two of my three close friends to be bridesmaids and everything is now difficult’Tell Me About It: The stress of this is starting to sour my wedding celebrationsWed Jul 31 2024 - 06:01
‘I am divorced at 60, envious of my ex-husband’s new life and struggling with loneliness’Tell Me About It: ‘Nobody calls in to me and I think if I died, nobody would know for days’Wed Jul 24 2024 - 06:01
‘I want to ask someone if their parents are separated before going on a date’Tell Me About It: The abuse I get for ending a relationship is so over the top that it makes sense that other stuff is going on – for which I am not responsibleWed Jul 17 2024 - 06:01
‘I’m dating a previously married man but I feel sad that I will always come second to his children’Tell Me About It: I knew what I was signing myself up for, but I wish almost every day that things were differentWed Jul 10 2024 - 06:01
‘I care for my elderly parents, but my efforts are taken for granted. I think I might be going mad’Tell Me About It: When I ask for help from family members, the response from some is wholly unsupportiveWed Jul 03 2024 - 06:01
‘I am working with a very difficult person and it is having a huge effect on my life’Tell Me About It: ‘I’ve worked hard to get where I am, but now I feel like leaving and forgetting about my career’Wed Jun 26 2024 - 06:01
‘My daughter has been in a relationship with a horrible bully for more than eight years’Tell Me About It: The relationship has ended over two years ago and he refuses to leave the house. He has taken over the main bedroom and it has become his denWed Jun 19 2024 - 06:01
‘I’m 55 and have huge shame around sex’Tell Me About It: The problem here is that the concept of sex for pleasure is being missed, which is what you want to achieve: the retraining of your body to expect and receive pleasureWed Jun 12 2024 - 06:01
‘He’d love to build a house in the countryside, but I wouldn’t live there if someone paid me’Tell Me About It: Is love sometimes not enough when we both want different locations to settle down in?Wed Jun 05 2024 - 06:01
‘My brother is meeting fabulous women, but they leave because he does not want more children’Tell Me About It: As with all our familial relationships, we need to move from our childhood patterns into more adult connections and this usually only happens when we are forced to do soWed May 29 2024 - 06:01
‘My partner will not give up meeting people for sex. I feel enormous rejection’ I found history on my partner’s laptop that tells me she has been having sex with other people. I’m traumatisedWed May 22 2024 - 06:01
‘A primary school teacher shook a child in class, according to my granddaughter. What should I do?’Tell Me About It: The school your granddaughter attends should have a complaints procedureWed May 15 2024 - 06:01
‘A stranger entered our family and turned them all against us’Tell Me About It: There is a saying that resentment is like ‘taking poison and expecting the other person to die’Wed May 08 2024 - 06:01
‘I have not had contact with my siblings for many decades, nor did I attend my parents’ funerals’Tell Me About It: I have no friends nor any acquaintances, no one ever contacts me, nor vice versa, and I never socialiseWed May 01 2024 - 06:01
‘I’m alone pretty much all the time. The older I become, the less hopeful I am this will change’Tell Me About It: Loneliness is a fundamental human emotion and one reason it may be so intense is in order to push us into breaking out of our safety zones and taking the risk of connecting with another personWed Apr 24 2024 - 06:01
‘I am 39 and feel like I have not managed to make much of my life’Tell Me About It: 'Some friends say that I have it all, but I feel my life is boring and unfulfilled'Wed Apr 17 2024 - 06:01
‘My wife wants another child, but I would be in my 80s when they go to college’Tell Me About It: Take responsibility for creating a life that takes everyone’s needs into accountWed Apr 10 2024 - 06:01
‘A few months ago my wife left the country. The last six months have been the most traumatic of my life’Tell Me About It: The love of my life told me she was not coming back. I keep switching from feeling normal, sometimes even positive about my future, to feeling profound despairWed Apr 03 2024 - 06:01
‘My colleague has said she’s having marital difficulties. Worryingly, it includes physical abuse’Tell Me About It: Being there for her, bearing witness to her struggle and always believing her is crucial to your colleague’s wellbeingWed Mar 27 2024 - 06:01
‘I am worried about my sister. She seems to have given up on life’Tell Me About It: ‘I’m proud I have rebuilt my life and realised my life ambitions, but worry my sister is left behind’Wed Mar 20 2024 - 06:01
‘I now realise that my son is in a narcissistic relationship, completely controlled and manipulated’Tell Me About It: Surround yourself with good people, do things that give you joy or fulfilment and do not let your love be contaminated by fear or despairWed Mar 13 2024 - 06:01
‘I am no longer physically attracted to my husband and dread having to be intimate with him’Tell Me About It: This issue is not new and teasing it out might be possible with the support of a psychosexual therapistWed Mar 06 2024 - 05:31
‘It dawned on me it was not good to be so mistreated by a friend’Tell Me About It: Friendships go through challenges which determine whether they are the real thing, or just more basic relationshipsWed Feb 28 2024 - 05:00
‘I think I would be happier as a single man, but despair at the thoughts of a messy separation’Tell Me About It: If we don’t change soon, we’re in for a miserable life together or some change for the worse - such as divorceWed Feb 21 2024 - 06:01
‘My sister’s attitude from the start of her cancer diagnosis was toxic’Tell Me About It: ‘The family dynamics have always been fractured and are now at an all-time low’Wed Feb 14 2024 - 06:01
‘Why has everyone stopped caring about me? Why treat me like I don’t matter or like I don’t exist?’Tell Me About It: ‘I’m female, 60-plus. I’ve stopped caring about everything’Wed Feb 07 2024 - 06:01
‘I am struggling to help my two children, who still live at home. They are both very isolated’Tell Me About It: If your children can see that their father is self-aware and help-seeking, it might open the door for them to risk asking for help tooWed Jan 31 2024 - 06:01
‘I don’t know what happened, but recently I just cannot bear to be around my friend’Tell Me About It: It is not uncommon that one can have had a close friendship with someone for many years and then distaste and disapproval arrive fully formedWed Jan 24 2024 - 05:31
‘I have been over-involved in my flatmate’s life and now I’m at breaking point’You need to be healthy and functioning well as a human being if you are to be a source of support for othersWed Jan 17 2024 - 05:31
‘I want to be with my now vulnerable mum, but my wife won’t understand and there will be push back’Tell Me About It: It is a time to think big, to appreciate the heritage of your family of origin and to challenge the divisive nature of comparisonWed Jan 10 2024 - 06:01
‘Where and how does a man in his 50s meet new and interesting people?’Tell Me About It: Dating in Ireland has changed and the old idea of meeting someone in a pub is not as successful as it once wasWed Jan 03 2024 - 06:01
‘Many of my relationships crumbled following my cancer diagnosis’Tell Me About It: Accepting your friends’ faults means you may be able to talk to them without bitternessWed Dec 20 2023 - 06:01
‘My wife is a fantastic woman, my soulmate and an incredible mother, but our marriage is sexless’Tell Me About It: Daring to talk about deeply personal issues creates intimacy and of course it comes with the risk of rejectionWed Dec 13 2023 - 06:01
‘I am battling with alcohol withdrawal and now feel like ending my marriage’Tell Me About It: You have stopped drinking, and this is quite an achievement, but the next step is to engage with your wife and in a sustained and real mannerWed Dec 06 2023 - 06:01
‘Our son is getting married soon, but we think he’s making a very big mistake’Tell Me About It: ‘His wife-to-be comes from a broken home where all her siblings have gone their separate ways’Wed Nov 29 2023 - 06:01
‘My wife has a long-term illness and we have not had sex in almost 14 years’Tell Me About It: ‘I am sad all the time and frustrated at the total lack of romance or sex in my life’Wed Nov 22 2023 - 06:01
‘I came to resent my parents as I grew older and now I feel guilt about inheriting their wealth’Tell Me About It: I left the country as soon as I could as I could not bear to be the sole carer for both my parents, whom I had come to resent as I grew olderWed Nov 15 2023 - 06:01
