My partner wants to buy a house but I’m scared of living out his dream, not my own
Ask Roe: I have always been a bit lost career-wise and regret not living abroad when my friends did
Changing Gender by Susan Stryker: A work of extraordinary energy, hope and emotional force
Through the seemingly dry framework of grammar, the author takes us on an intellectually stunning and thrillingly alive journey
My in-law is so at ease with everyone else, yet so cold and dismissive with me
Ask Roe: There have been times I’ve driven home from family occasions feeling completely exasperated, wondering, ‘What is her problem?’
The Most Normal Woman: Essays on Appearances – sharp, funny and unsettling
The author is a witty, intelligent and perceptive guide to the increasingly grotesque work of having a self in public
‘Irish friend groups can be impenetrable – will I have the same issue when I move abroad?’
Ask Roe: ‘Am I wrong to think people in their mid-20s have little interest in making friends outside their circle?’
My boyfriend often drinks heavily and takes cocaine and I’m struggling to deal with it
Ask Roe: On the surface level, I find it disgraceful that my partner would get into this state
My wife won’t talk about our diminishing sex life – and I’m out of ideas
Ask Roe: I love my wife, she’s my best friend, but I feel unsatisfied with the intimate side of our relationship
My friends never pick up the bill and it’s making me resentful
Ask Roe: I hate the idea of becoming someone who counts every penny. How do I stop?
I always go for men who are ‘out of my league’. Can I change my attraction preferences?
Ask Roe: Can I change who I’m drawn to? I can’t help who I’m attracted to, can I?
‘Can a relationship still work without butterflies?’
Ask Roe: ‘Have I built something on a weak foundation? The fact I have doubts makes me worry they must be justified’
‘My sister has stopped putting in effort with me since she had kids’
Ask Roe: ‘I’m told to call over any time, but I’m starting to question the legitimacy of this apparent open-door policy’
I worry my sister’s lack of selfishness is damaging her health
Ask Roe: My sister volunteers to help anyone in need, even when she doesn’t like them that much. It’s heartbreaking to see her in constant pain
Flick by Kate Lister: Lively and funny deep-dive into the history of female pleasure
Lister argues that women have never been less sexual than men, but the narrative has been controlled with a firm male grip
‘My husband cheated on me with sex workers, blew up our family, and is now living his best life’
Ask Roe: Choices your husband made have no reflection on your worth, and are entirely a reflection on him
‘I’m married but have fallen in love with a woman at work’
Ask Roe: ‘Should I try to get counselling for our marriage, or just go with what I feel is right?’