Wedded bliss beats seven-year itch

But are you happy? If you happen to be married, the answer appears to be an overwhelming "yes".

But are you happy? If you happen to be married, the answer appears to be an overwhelming "yes".

Opposition political parties may try to convince us that young married couples are bleary-eyed wrecks, struggling to juggle the creche, traffic jams and a career, while their marriages slide slowly into oblivion. However, the results of a survey of more than 700 couples married over a seven-year period indicate that most are of those who tied the knot are blissfully happy.

Some 98 per cent of couples intend to remain married to the same person, 86 per cent would recommend marriage to another couple intending to marry and 77 per cent are "very happy" with their marriage.

All the findings point to what seems like a prolonged honeymoon rather than a seven-year itch.

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The findings are broadly mirrored by international research. A number of studies in the US and Britain show that married people are more satisfied with their lives than their non-married peers. They are also more likely to live longer and report lower levels of depression and have a higher standard of health.

But is marriage really the route to true happiness or is there a hint of the Stepford Wives syndrome, where more complicated truths lie behind the gleaming smiles?

It is worth noting that the Accord survey is just part of the overall picture. It specifically excludes anyone who was previously in a marriage, who is statistically less likely to be happy with marriage.

The survey does not include non-married people in committed relationships or cohabiting couples who choose not to marry. This makes it impossible to say married people in Ireland are significantly happier than those outside marriage.

There is also the age-old problem of persuading people to reveal their true feelings about deeply personal issues to a stranger who arrives on their doorstep with a clipboard.

It is perhaps significant that responses in the survey were much more likely to be negative when people were asked about other people's marriages.

For example, just 31 per cent of respondents said most married couples they knew had a happy and healthy marriage.

When couples were asked if they ever considered divorce or separation, just 7 per cent said they did, but this shot up to 63 per cent when they were asked whether other married couples they knew had experienced separation or divorce.

Whatever about opinion poll findings, the figures in the most recent census show marriage is firmly back in fashion. The number of marriages increased by 110,600 (7.6 per cent) over the past four years.

However, marriage break-up is also on the rise, with a 70 per cent increase in the number of people getting divorced over the last four years. There is now one divorce for every six marriages, compared to one in every eight in 1999.

Maybe the reality can be found, not in answers given to pollsters on the doorsteps, but in the statistics of marriages and divorces.

Carl O'Brien

Carl O'Brien

Carl O'Brien is Education Editor of The Irish Times. He was previously chief reporter and social affairs correspondent